One of the most common questions I get is—“How do you stay happy in your marriage and how come you’re not bored?”
Believe me when I say, it’s important to put energy into your relationship and take time to get creative so you and your partner don’t get bored. And, it’s all worth it.
Let me share that a survey in The Normal Bar found 71 percent of men and 49 percent of women cheat because they’re bored. That’s a pretty good reason to put effort into your relationship!
So, let me share some ways you can keep things fresh with your lover, no matter how many years you’ve been together.
#1 – Schedule Dates
Make a commitment to each other that you’ll have two date day or nights each month where it’s just you two. This means, no kids, in-laws, or friends.
And by date, I don’t mean a full dinner out. Here’s a Cooking Light article that I contributed to which shares 16 fun date ideas that don’t involve dinner.
ACTION: Go ask your love out for a date right now.
#2 – Talking is Important
Many of my clients and friends stop talking to their partner because they feel they have nothing to say.
I’m going to share a helpful tip that I learned from a college roommate. She would regularly read magazines that were out of her comfort zone, such as Time and The New Yorker, so she would be armed with interesting facts and stories to share with her dates.
You can try this tactic as well. Use Google to create an email alert every time an article is published on a topic that interests your significant other.
ACTION: Here are step-by-step instructions on how to create your own Google Alert.
#3 – Create New Shared Hobbies
Maybe bowling, smoking cigars, sewing, golfing, or swimming aren’t your idea of fun. So you find yourselves going your separate ways when it comes time to enjoy some play time.
Make an effort to try some new hobbies that you can enjoy together.
While paddle boarding, kayaking, or wine tasting may be great common interests to try, I suggest also exploring a hobby that may involve a bit of risk.
Did you know that adrenaline can activate sexual feelings and can bring a spark back to relationships?
I suggest whitewater rafting, zip lining, indoor skydiving, or activities along those lines to get a couples’ blood flowing and to renew your connection.
ACTION: Start a Bucket List together of new things that both of you would like to try together.
Please let me know how my suggestions work in your relationship.
And, as always, be good to yourself!™